One pen ma: A yardstick in us all

source:  晴報
7/28/2011 (Thursday)
One pen Ma
Steven Ma

There is a yardstick inside everybody. 

每個人也有把心中尺.

Humans by nature have a wishful appraisal of selves, things and people around them. This wishfulness will increase or decrease with passing years and experiences, likewise, the yardstick measurement will fluctuate according to one's present whims of likes and dislikes, of love and desires. Of course, regardless of how this wishfulness or measurement changes, so long it changes towards decency and positiveness, towards inner strength and self-reflection, they are all good. 

But, often, people too easily use their yardsticks for outside measurement, imposing their own standards and desires on others, and then viewing selves as judges, their subconscious mixed with the power of consciousness to criticize other people, subsequently reaffirming their own existence worth and power. This kind of malevolent subconscious is especially evoked by people of comparatively weak willpower and low self-confidence.

Actually everybody experiences different life encounters, the so called cause and effect. How can everything be viewed from just one perspective to decide right or wrong, true or false? I have always believed in empathy! And also believe that only through empathy can one relate to other people's viewpoint of their plights, and to better comprehend the whole situation. So, next time when we use our inner yardstick to measure others, have we done some prior self-reflection? Or are we willing to remind ourselves: “How one conducts oneself in society is like looking into a mirror; don’t blithely apply your own beliefs/disbeliefs onto others.*"

TN *(e.g. just because you can’t doesn’t mean others can’t either and vice versa; dog in the manger.)”
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轉自晴報- 一筆馬 (马浚伟 )

每個人也有把心中尺.
人對自身或周遭的一切人舆物, 天生就有種評審的欲望. 這欲望, 會隨著嵗月和經歴或增或減, 而量度的尺度又會随着自身的喜悪愛欲而變化不定. 當然, 不管這欲望和尺度如何轉變, 只要是轉向善良和正面, 内量和自省的, 都是好亊.

但人往往容易把尺往外量, 把一己準則和欲望投放在別人身上, 再把自己視為審判者, 潜意識地混用自覺擁有的權力去批判别人, 繼而確認自己的存在價值和權力. 特别是遇上意志力和自信心較自己弱的人, 這種潜意悪念更是大派用場.

其實毎個人都有不同的際遇, 所謂各有前因, 凡事又豈能只從一已角度去辨識對錯真偽? 我從來相信同理心! 也認為只有同理心, 代入别人的處境角度, 方能領悟更全面的真實. 那麽, 下次當我們用心中尺去量度別人前, 可會撫心自問? 又可會願意提醒自己 : [做人處世如照镜, 已所不欲, 勿施於人] ?