Steven Ma to get back with ex-gf

I will transcribe this segment in  part3 tudou link later today. This snatch of conversation is just the tip of an iceberg. 
Steven Ma after leaving TVB gets back with former girlfriend because increased income makes him more confident.  马浚伟离TVB后与女友复合 因收入增加感情更自信

Q: Why did Steven hope to get back with girl after he left TVB?

Last year, Steven described himself as an "apron strings child" in that he could stay at the same job during his lifetime.  So, why then was he adamant in terminating early his contract with his maternal home TVB that he has served for the past 18 years?  After his contract termination, he now begins to plan on how to get back with his former girlfriend, why?  Steven Ma, who just got back to Hong Kong  from shooting, "Legend of the Yuan Empire Founder", called me on the phone and said: "I want to get on your program to talk about my feelings."  

A:  Income increase. Steven is now more confident toward his love relationship as he walks cheerfully into the broadcasting studio.

He says: "Shooting in mainland truly opened up my eyes to the world and broadened my horizon. I'm happy."  

But I persist with my question: "Since you are so faithful and cherish old friendships and old times, why then did you insist on terminating your contract early?" 

 "The company has many people who treated me well, especially Stephen Chan who has helped enormously. My situation is truly very unique."  And then he went on to compliment TVB for being kind (to him) and for its massive influence worldwide.

So I ask him: "If TVB was so good why did you want to terminate your contract early? And moreover, refused to sign a per series contract with it? " 

"TVB by itself definitely poses no problem.  So Steven's answer implies the problem is of an interpersonal issue?

Besieged by me, Steven would only say: "Siu Yan jie, I'm a mute eating bitter lotus (suffered in silence) What can be said I've already said to you"

Steven reveals that at year end he'll take on a new endeavor whereby he will shoot a 30 episode series that he will write and act in.  Also, he has not given up on the music industry. (tn: Not as a singer but more in releasing another music album, which incidentally had been one of his 2009 contract terms.)

I ask him: "Is it because of your breakup with girlfriend that you are so concentrated on your work? And set your sight on Mainland now?"  

Unexpectedly he says: "We've had a favorable turnaround. Currently trying to mend the relationship."

Getting back together?

Steven say: "Still under observation. Before I felt that my financial situation was still not stable enough. I didn't want her to lower her lifestyle because of me.  So, considered breakup. I disclosed our breakup for her sake lest after our parting she met a new boyfriend and because we did not disclose our breakup her new boyfriend would unwittingly become the third party. But after our breakup, (tn: a year ago) neither of us got a new bf/gf.   Moreover, my income has increased tremendously so now I can afford her a lifestyle she is used to. Plus my temper has become better, not so stubborn anymore.  So now we can get along happier."

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TN: Haiz, Steven! But I wasn't surprised by this revelation of Steven's chauvinistic male pride. Also not surprised at all that Steven hopes to get back with former girlfriend since he is a faithful 长情 sort of guy. Vivien must have loved him very much to put up with that stubborn male pride of his. 

 part 3 segment or about 32:00 on the full broadcast timer. 
Steven talks about his love relationship

E:  A very warm moment just happened.  Which was Stephen Chan dropped in to say hi to Steven. 

S: Yes, very happy. Seeing him looking so well, and now as CO, so congratulations to him.

E: He also congratulates you too for doing so well. But don’t know why Steven’s finger is all bandaged. Finger got cut? What’s wrong?

S: Last night after my shower, I accidentally slammed the door on my finger.

E: So absent-minded? What’s the matter with you?

S: Nah! Just too happy.

E: Why so happy?

S: Just when I was closing the door I reached inside to turn on the ventilation because it was vey humid. So the door slammed onto the finger and broke the flesh so became bloody.

E: So need to see doctor?

S: No need lah, a tough man like me. I just poured some hydrogen peroxide over it to disininfect.

E: Must be very painful

………. Discuss what he brought over with him to mainland. (first-aid, medicine, computer, sweets for low blood sugar)

E: Why need to eat sweet? Just bite your own finger, you’re so sweet.

S:  I’ll become a vampire

E: Steven, earlier part we’d already started this topic, you are now so completely focused on your work in mainland; because of the breakup no more lingering worries?

S: No, still continue to have lingering worries.

E: Worries about girlfriend?

S: aa..aa.. Right now I feel there’s a change; quite obvious.  I don’t know how to describe it

E:  Get back together?

S: aa…aa follow fate. Give another chance to oneself, give another chance to us.

E: You have opened up your mouth to say this?

S: aa..aa. Have communicated. Have said it.

E: March 1^st night you came back to Hong Kong, and today is March 6^th ,  have you seen each other?

S: No, she’s not in Hong Kong. I’ve to fly over to look her up.

E: So, when are you flying over?

S: aa.. when our time match.

E: haha! So matched (kap) the time already?

S: emm…will work on it.

E: So your finger is already stubbed (pun on “kap”)

S: Yeah, the finger’s already “kap”; also people’s attitude can change. These few days I came back many friends commented that my attitude had changed somewhat. They felt that I had become more ‘easy’ (relax/at ease)

E: The new Ma Chun Wai.

S: like more easy on many aspects.

E: more casual

S: Not so particular on certain things.  Well, frankly speaking, it is because I’m earning more money. So not so worry anymore compare to before.  Also know about my future jobs. The heart is more secure.

E: Can take care of a family now.

S: Actually, could do that already before but just wished for more.  Haha!

E: haha! Really? Ma Chun Wai, really because of wanting to ..

S: Yes, for me I had to have a certain amount of money before I would decide to have a family

E: Yes, I know, I understand that Ma Chun Wai is a chauvinistic man, and that he wants to take care of people around him.

S: I don’t like other people to pay, don’t like other people to spend money on my behalf.  I would rather I pay for you. I don’t want you to pay for me.

E: Your girlfriend won’t. Was it really because you felt your financial situation was not strong enough?

S: Not up to the level that could take care of her. I felt. I didn’t want her to change her lifestyle because of me.  But of course I knew she didn’t mind.  Even if she had to just eat bread she would not have minded.   

E: But you did.

S: Yes, I did.

E: Why would she need to eat bread with you? You cook so well. Haha. just not eating those rare delicacies. haha

S: I don’t want other people to changer their lifestyles because of me. That’s just my feeling

E: This truly was the reason for the breakup? So did you say to her that I don’t want you to..

S: Well, there was other stuff like there’s my bad temper too.

E: Huh? Is that right? I don’t see that in you.

S: Wah, you have not seen me lost my temper, Siu Yan Jie

E: So why would you for no reason lose your temper with someone you love?

S:  Well, sometimes the more beloved the person the more you dare to show your temper with.

E: huh..

S: Humans are like that. You’ll see, you lose your temper more with the person who love you the most.

E: So you know you’re wrong?

S: I don’t think I was wrong.  That was just a personality issue. But I’ve changed now.  So now I seldom lose my temper.

E: Do you know why?

S: Why?

E: Because you don’t have as much discontentment with reality now.

S:  Well, yeah, can put it that way.  Also when the future paths and decisions have become clearer, my worries are reduced. And now I view most stuff with a positive attitude.

E: Was that why when Ma Chun Wai was dating he would not disclose it. It’s not because was afraid the fans would not like it.

S: It had nothing to do with fans.  In fact, many of them knew, also my friends knew too.  What century is this? Even married still can be popular. Even as father or mother still can have many fans.  It’s not that. But going outside to shoot a series will need some accommodation and getting use to.  Because you can’t just think of yourself.  So we must have some consensus and I hope that we agree on the consensus and see if fate…

E: Can the consensus be that she follows you to mainland where you shoot the series.  

S: That would be bad.

E: Why?

S: Because that would totally tire her out.  I don’t want that.

E: Also will increase your sense of responsibility

S: Because my own responsibility is already heavy to start with.  So will let fate decide.  So will see how it goes for a period of time. See if our fate will let us stay together.

E: But still happy you know actually

S: At least we still keep in touch

E: So earlier back then, in love and in work, Ma Chun Wai was making tough decisions.  Should I terminate the contract? What should I do?

S: Feeling very lost.  Had to make a choice either way? To make the choice to terminate the contract early was not an easy decision to make.  Moreover, nobody ever did that before.

E: Also, it was just a decision, doesn’t mean it could be done. 

S: Yes, I also worried it could not be done.

E: To terminate the contract with the company is of course difficult to do. There is the black and white contract, to terminate it early is of course not an easy task to do. But toward girlfriend? Should we continue or not? How to decide on that?

S: Actually, we are talking about a year ago situation. Like I had disclosed earlier. I was and still am worried about one issue. Though I myself am still single but I worry if she had another (bf) and if I did not disclose our breakup, people would think we were still together so that would be very unfair to her.  And so she would become a two-timer and I the pitiful victim.  That’s not right. So that’s why I decided to disclose it first. But it turns out she didn’t have any either.  So…so haha.. will see how it goes. 

E: Haiz! Look at you, much ado.

S: But after this,  we have more stuff to talk about.haha

E: A lot of shared experiences together.

S: At least, she did not find another person, and I didn’t either.  Well,..also my attitude has changed. So will give her a bit of time to see if my attitude has really changed.

E: Doing such a turbulent period with love and work problems, who helped Ma Chun Wai the most?

S: Well, no one in particular. I seldom shared my problems. Of course, the colleagues around me will help, there’re Tsui jie and manager, Hillman, and I would talk with them. But with things that I could not think through, I would go play badminton.  Once I hit the balls I would forget everything.

E: This is a good way to numb oneself.

S: After a strenuous exercise you’ll lighter and more relax.  The brain more oxygenated.  So you think to yourself not need to think too much. And oh, there’s one other way, is to talk to God. Just turn over the burden for Him to take care. No need to think. Just do well what you need to do today.  Stuff will take care of itself.

E:  The boat will straighten itself at the jetty. Haha  so go sleep.

S: Mine is even shorter.  Haiz, not going to think about it.  And indeed I really managed not to think about it.

E: Good, Because I know in the days to come, Ma Chun Wai, his career profile no need to think because someone else has already planned for him.  All he has to do is signed the paper.

S: Well,  these next two months I will give myself some freedom,  to enjoy the feel of it. Many people have approached me. I want to thank them for their interests in me.  It is not that I don’t want to discuss with you all but that…

E: Fine, two more weeks. I’ll tell them. Look for Ma Chun Wai in April.

S: That’s correct. Only one more month, it passes very quickly.

E: For the next two months I’ll be your manager.  

S: OK. Haha

E: Thank you, Ma Chun Wai.